Many of us, as we were growing up, unconsciously morphed ourselves into someone our parents wanted us to be. This adaptive strategy made us feel safe, it assured that we would survive, it kept us accepted by our parents and caregivers.
Some of the choices that we made as children served our development and contributed to our maturation. And some of them, most likely felt out of alignment with our inner core and who we know ourselves to be.
I now invite you to gently shed light on what you had to give up, in order to experience a pseudo sense of belonging within your family of origin. I created a simple yet powerful exercise that will help you uncover some of your strategies and coping mechanisms that you might have unconsciously taken on. Proceed with love and compassion:
1.In order to belong to my family system, I had to:
2. Now, as an adult, which of these behaviors are you still holding on to or engaging in?
3. Which ones of these do you feel ready to release?
4. Create a ritual to release what no longer serves your highest good.