Healing is an exquisite and at the same time a messy journey. The energies that gradually unleash, as part of the process, can move us to the heights of bliss and can shake us to the core of our being.
The word trauma comes from a Greek word that means “wound”. Most of us carry wounds that were inflicted on us by people around us, which is a form of personal trauma. Wounds that we carry through our lineages (our parents, grandparents, etc.) and these are called intergenerational traumas. Wounds that involve thousands and millions of people, in case of war, colonization and patriarchy are collective traumas.
As we engage in the process of healing we touch, explore, and enter the wounded places inside of us, to meet the “dark” and to be met by our loving essence.
Healing is also a way to restore ourselves and each other to our natural state of being and living.
It’s a journey of reclaiming our human rights, as we allow rage to roar with ferocity. It’s a journey of uncovering our truth, as we allow our unadultered voice to be heard. It’s a welcoming back of lost parts of ourselves, as we embrace what we’ve exiled. It’s a path of restoration to our innocence and our innate wisdom.
As a natural byproduct of healing, we feel more expanded, more connected to ourselves, we become more relational and less isolated. We feel greater aliveness and ease.
Peter Levine described very well what happens if we don’t attend to our wounds:
“The effects of unresolved trauma can be devastating. It can affect our habits and outlook on life, leading to addictions and poor decision-making. It can take a toll on our family life and interpersonal relationships. It can trigger real physical pain, symptoms, and disease. And it can lead to a range of self-destructive behaviors.”
My hope is that each person on this Earth will choose to walk down the path of healing, not only for personal well-being but also for the thriving of the world we share and in service to Life.
Here are 3 simple GUIDELINES that you can rely on, as you walk through your healing journey:
1. BEFRIENDING: Instead of pushing away, judging or controlling what wants to surface, we practice befriending those energies. We welcome our inner experiences, regardless if they feel painful or pleasant. We release harshness and embrace kindness as a tool for transformation.
2. EMBODIMENT: We need to feel safe enough in our bodies to allow her/his intelligence to guide us. We gradually reestablish an organic connection between mind and body, especially our lower bodies, that often times we have a tendency to avoid.
In order for healing to truly take root in our lives, we need to learn to FEEL our feelings, to be with our physical sensations, giving our bodies permission to communicate, to move in unexpected ways, releasing stagnant energies into motion.
3. SUPPORT: Trauma often causes us to feel isolated, so working with someone you feel safe and comfortable with is essential in the process of recovery. Receiving support along the way, brings a sense of comfort, and allows trust and relation to be restored.
Along the way, it’s important to tune in to our soul’s guidance and our inner wisdom, so we can choose what feels right to us and set aside what doesn’t.
With time, our wounded places become sources of inspiration, revealing gifts and wisdom that we didn’t know we held inside, like beautiful treasure boxes full of riches.
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